October 6th, 2017

When You Date While Traveling, Don’t Expect a Hollywood Ending

Yesterday I seriously considered hurling my phone out my 25th floor window. Only two things stopped me: one, the fact that I’ve replaced three phones in the last six months (not from throwing them, I swear) and two, a legitimate worry that I might injure person or property.

Apparently a memo went out yesterday to all the men I’ve [Read More]

September 1st, 2017

Catching Flights AND Feelings

“Catch flights, not feelings” has become a rallying cry. And when I started this trip, I thought maybe it could be mine. I left a string of romantic disappointments behind in New York, and I hoped a year with We Roam would be a much-needed break from the pressure of dating in my 30s. 

But four months [Read More]

August 16th, 2017

I Drove 119 km for a First Date

When I wrote about bailing on my island hop last week, I mentioned that it freed me up to accept an invitation to visit the little town of Tisno—here’s the story I hinted at.

Shortly after I arrived in Barcelona back in May, right after I’d started traveling, a guy messaged me on OKCupid. We’ll call [Read More]

June 21st, 2017

Reconsidering Non-Monogamy

When I was young, I assumed I would get married–it was a question of when, not if. And I assumed the marriage would look pretty similar to all the ones I saw around me: kids, suburbs, a sort of genial affection with my husband, if I were lucky. I think these are pretty common assumptions [Read More]

June 14th, 2017

Traveling with Steamer-Trunk-Sized Emotional Baggage

People always say you can’t run away from your problems, but I’ve done a pretty damn good job of it over the years. When life gets messy, travel. When life turns catastrophic, move. I took Cher’s mantra in Mermaids (a classic) to heart: “Death is dwelling on the past or staying in one place too [Read More]

May 19th, 2017

The Double Date That Wasn’t

Last weekend, my new friend and travel mate, Abby, thought it would be fun to do a double date. I was supposed to see a flamenco show with a guy I’d been talking to on OkCupid who was visiting Barcelona from Belgrade (our September stop–hoping to line things up in advance; I’m very pragmatic). Abby had [Read More]

January 24th, 2017

Trump Is Ruining My Love Life

Since the election, my dating life has gone from bad to nonexistent. [Read More]